Friday, January 29, 2010

teenagers

have i mentioned that i have 4 teenagers......19, 17, 16 and 15.....

oh and then there is the 11 and 9 year olds, but i am not going to talk about them in this post.

these are the hardest days of my life right now.

everyday there is another argument with another kid - did i mention that i am emotionally e.x.h.a.u.s.t.e.d??? well i am!

frustrated! nothing seems to get resolved - and i am the one who ends up in tears!

these days are very difficult.....! trying to show them the "right" way - i know that they must go out and make their own mistakes, i truly believe that is the best way to learn right from wrong, of course with some guidance!

i wonder if i am too controlling............i wonder if my kids are just spoiled.

in the end, i want them to be happy and responsible adults - that's all i want - - but do i really have to go through all t his aggravation??????

why is it so easy for some families?

ugh! does anyone else go through this?

2 comments:

barbj said...

Oh yes I feel your pain. The teenage years are THE WORST!!!! I am suprised my two are still alive. Seriously, there were days I wanted to kill them. Now they are 21 and 23 and it is like someone threw a switch...they are my best friends and all of the crap from the awful teenage years seems to have just disapeared. Hang in there, it WILL get better. It does seem like some families have it really easy...but I have to wonder, do they or is it just that they are really good at not airing their dilemmas publicly? I know when I was having a particularly difficult time with my oldest I called an acquaintance who seemingly had the perfect children and asked her for guidance...as it turned out she was going through similar stuff, they just hid it really well.

Tammy said...

I am there also. I spent so much of this weekend in tears and angry at my 15 year old. I have one - 18 in college, the 15 year old in high school then two that are younger- 5 and 7.
I don't get it either. Why am I always the mean one? Why is it that whatever I do is wrong? Why don't they listen to me and at least show some respect- at least a little bit. Why do I have to cry and hurt and like you said - be emotionally drained every day?
I don't know and I wonder if it is just my kids or are ther possibly other mom's out there at their wits end?
It is especially hard right now with hubby in Afghanistan so I am being "beat up" all alone.
tammy

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I have been very happily married to my "kindergarten sweetheart" for 20 years............well we actually didn't start dating until we were in our 20's...... Together we have 6 wonderful children. They are 17, 16, 15, 14, 10 and 8. Although, we have moved around often, I am hopeful that we are now settled back home in Michigan.